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LIFE COACHING

Partners in Success:
Why You Want Your Coach to Be an Equal Partner

Connecting For Results #61
August 4, 2005
Copyright © 2005 by Bill Dueease

Engaging a life coach is uniquely different than the other nine different human improvement processes. In other human improvement processes such as therapy, counseling, consulting, psychiatry, teaching, mentoring and training, you are hiring a superior, at least for the subject at hand. A consultant is a superior expert, a teacher is a superior, a trainer is a superior, and a psychiatrist is your superior. Your coach will not be your superior.

You do not want your coach to show any form of superiority or attitude during the coaching process. In life coaching, you are the center of attention at all times, not your coach. If a coach operates from a place of superiority, then the center of attention shifts from you to the coach. When you feel your coach is superior to you, then true coaching stops and one or more of the other processes take over.

People who feel they are superior will have a strong tendency to judge you, at least in their perceived area of superiority. If you feel any hint of judgment by a coach, you will most likely become reluctant to open up and reveal yourself. Since the basis of the life coaching process is to discover yourself through the mirror-revealing coaching process, any hesitancy you show to openly answer your coach’s questions will dramatically degrade your coaching value.

Likewise, you will not want to feel that your coach is inferior to you. You most likely will not respect a coach whom you feel is inferior enough to open up and reveal yourself. You will most likely restrain from full openness, due to your perceived disregard for their ability to understand.

When you feel a personal connection and an equal partner relationship with your coach, you will be strongly motivated to share your inner passions, desires, priorities, beliefs and values. The powerful forces of coaching come from the unique equal partnership relationship you establish with your coach.

Another very unique and enjoyable part of life coaching is that your coaching partnership focuses completely on you, and where you want to go, by concentrating on the achievement of your coachable goals. Your equal partner coach will assist you to succeed and will celebrate your victories and rewards.

You will want to make sure that you have found the coach who will become your genuine equal partner, because you two just naturally fit together. You will be able to recognize the best coach for you because you will just feel it.

We welcome your opinions and comments.

Bill Dueease
Editor

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